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June 28, 2015

Family is everything

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This is the foundation upon which I raise my children. This is the mantra I repeat in my head. And this week, where one of the most important milestones of my family’s life took place, and where I haven’t, until now, been able to work or blog, barely tweet or Facebook, I have had to exhale in release of the stress from the pressure that I place on myself for being “quiet” and “absent” and remind myself, “family first”. It’s interesting how we often talk about the freedom that blogging and social media has provided so many of us. The freedom to create our own businesses and carve our own name and reputation in this space, and yet, I have found, so many of us trapped. Trapped in the expectations we feel others have of us, to the extent that this so-called freedom we claim to have becomes a lie.

I have been with those who take a photograph that moves them or make them feel a special way, yet pause and hesitate to share this emotion or thought on Instagram or anywhere else because it “goes against brand” or would “upset their followers”. I have had heart-to-heart conversations with people who have something to say, an opinion to express, yet silence themselves because it isn’t what a “potential client” would want or may cause them to “lose readers or followers”.

I have found myself, even during this week of celebration and great change in my life and family dynamic, pausing to worry about the fact that I haven’t blogged in a week or more.

But then I realize that though it’s true that I haven’t shared all the stories that I have to share, and though there are people waiting to see what I will produce from work we have done together (all of whom know about what is happening in my home now), the “risk” is worth it. Because my silence here, on my blog, is due to my doing exactly what I always encourage others to do, which is to get out there and live. Live to the fullest. Be in the moment, taking nothing for granted.

And so, this is a reminder not just to myself but also to you, my darling readers and friends. Please take my silence as a sign that I am out there, living life, experiencing it to the fullest, respecting my personal belief that family is everything…because they are everything to me.

Yesterday, while I wasn’t blogging or tweeting, I was with my closest friends and most beloved family members celebrating a new chapter in our lives. It was rainy and a bit cold, but our home was full of laughter and love and friendship and warmth. I realized that my inability to sit and write had everything to do with my choice to be in the moment, both feet in.

I left a lifestyle where corporate bosses dictated who I should value more in my life and at times forced me to chose work over family, even in moments when my children needed me the most, all for the promise of a paycheck and the potential of professional reward – which would never feel like enough. This is not a place I want to ever return to.

So, for me, the choice is clear…or at least has become more so over the years and though I have so much more to write about, I thought it important to write about this first. For me, family is everything, and though I suspect that this may not align with the ideals of others looking to work with bloggers, it’s one that I am confident will lead to the right opportunities in the future.

Girlgonetravel_familyWhile this blog has been quiet, my life has been anything but.

To me, that is the true freedom in what I do, and I am grateful to everyone who stands by my side, whether in real life or online, as I live through it. I think it makes me a more complete person and a better storyteller too, which I hope you all appreciate in the end.

Thank you for your support, your understanding, and your patience.

If you want a glimpse of what I have been up to, check out my Instagram at @GirlGoneTravel.

 

 

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Carol Cain

Brooklyn native Carol is happiest when on an adventure, whether close to home or farther away. She is a small business owner and travel writer. In addition to creating Girl Gone Travel, she is the Founder and Principal of Brave World Media, a social media marketing, communications, and branding agency. She's mom to three wonderful sons and wife to a handsome Irish/Scot. She lives, works, and plays in the beautiful Finger Lakes region of NY.

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Happy Monday, y’all. Woke up in time to enjoy the soft glow of sunlight that shines its way around our house in the morning, and sipped on a cafecito without being rushed for anything. So already today is a win. 

Yesterday we worked our longest day yet for our little coffee cart that could (7 hours!!!) at the Heritage Fiesta in Ithaca, NY. 

Though we were ready for a crowd, the reception was also unexpected because there was a popular coffee shop just steps away. 

But we had Cómodo Fam stop by, family (who also fed us 🙏🏾), and soooo many members of the Latinx and BIPOC community who were just excited to see a small business like ours representing. 

I want to share that we were ALL worried about potential harassment and assault by 🧊and fliers were handed out to prepare us. And you would think that it would’ve intimidated the community enough to not come out…BUT WE DID. In numbers. 

And for hours that little parking lot next to Press Bay Alley was packed with all sorts of Latinx and non-Latinx community members, eating, laughing, dancing, singing, and drinking all the cafecitos and refreshers we had to offer. Literally. We went home cleaned out!

All this to say that we are all aware of the threats but we also understand the power and importance of coming together as a community and a people. By no means are we all the same, and Lord knows a lot of Latinos have a lot of self-reflecting to do based on the choices they made, but yesterday was a testament to the best of us, and I thank @yenospina and @lcatompkins for putting together such a wonderful event, for inviting @cafecomodony to be a part of it, and to all the friends, old and new, who came out to support us and la cultura. 

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This cloudy morning seems to have calmed things down a bit, but not for long I am sure. These families work hard!

Bonus: they set up roadside stands so we can purchase and taste them 🍇 I highly recommend picking some up if you see some in your drive. 

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To send strength to my community of glorious misfits who are out in the world making good trouble and emboldening us to not give up hope on our dreams, our livelihoods, our future, our country, our people. 

The country our parents worked so hard to get to so that we could fly. A country they helped build and bring to prosper. A country our communities help to feed and house and care for. 

I am my immigrant parents dream come true, and my children are a continuation of that dream. 

I just want to remind all of us who represent the targeted, of our worth. Of the value of our contributions. In our languages, our culture, our insights, our work ethic and skills and knowledge. Of the things we bring to the table.

I don’t know what will happen tomorrow, or to us. But, as someone whose family lived through a dictatorship, I have an idea of how this story will end. And all I can advise is that we remain on the right side of it, our convictions unaltered, our core values untethered. Our spirits unbroken. In these stories, the monsters might scare us, and even harm some of us, but they never, ever win in the end. 

I am living proof of that. ❤️ And every time you succeed and feel joy, you are too. Pa’lante, mi gente.
Signs of autumn 🍂 in the Finger Lakes. Signs of autumn 🍂 in the Finger Lakes.

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